What did last year teach me?

I’ve been thinking about last year and what it taught me. Its already the end of February and the year is racing by, full of opportunities and unknowns.

So what did I learn in 2019? I learnt a lot but if I had to condense it down to 10 points I’d say…

Downs always lead to ups

In March 2019 I was made redundant (again) unexpectedly. The company involved treated me pretty shabbily and I limped away very low and anxious. I found a new role a few months later – one that pays a lot more and is a much bigger and better job and its a real reminder that theres ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel.

Travelling is great but home is where the heart is

Last year I took some great trips with my favourite travelling companion – my fiancé Russ. Portugal, Turkey, London and some fab day outs too. But nothing beats getting home – it really is our calm from the storm and I love that this year we’ve also made our home even better (with more to come in 2020). Spending money on trips is nice but I truly believe improving your home and surrounding yourself with lovely things is the thing that gets you through the mundane day to day slog…

My body, my rules

I ran a lot in 2019. I dieted hard this year. I lost some weight and I toned up. I ran almost 950km. Its funny how lots of people have strong views on how we should look, what we should eat and opinions on other peoples bodies. I actually stopped posting my Strava runs on Facebook due to some snarky comments (and even an unfollow!) and made a rule for myself that no-one gets to tell you how to look and feel. The only person that matters in this is you. In 2020 I am relaxing this as I am finally starting to feel happy with myself – a lifelong battle for me.

Growing up is hard to do

So my son turned 13 in 2019. We’ve always been really close but I can feel it beginning. The gap forming. Theres a strange feeling, like experiencing a slow motion break up with a really loved boyfriend but you know it has to happen.

I look at him each day and can see him changing, growing, transforming into the adult he will someday become. Teenagers aren’t meant to be easy, and I’m sure it will get harder but for now I’m hanging on to all the cuddles and kisses I can get…

Know your worth

During my period of having no job in the Spring last year I suffered from a deep feeling of inadequacy. I have always been very hard on myself and when I was offered a job with a very (pretty much insulting) salary it hurt me deep in my soul. I suffer from low self esteem so any knock-back often makes me feel extremely agitated and critical about myself. I wondered if I should take it, try and make the best of it, almost thinking that was all I was worth but my ever supportive fiancé reminded me of who I was and what I offer. And you know what? A month or so later I was offered by current role on nearly double that salary!!!

Mental health matters

Exercise, self care, getting toxic people out your life and learning to recognise the behaviours that lead to repeated problems. Pretty standard but very hard to actually do. In 2019 I exercised a lot but also gave myself permission to relax which is something I find very hard to do. For me, little things really make a difference – having a good beauty routine, eating something yummy, reading a great book or just taking some time for myself away from the kids. I have started to learn I must always protect what is precious and my own wellbeing is key. It is not selfish to regular check-in with yourself and make sure you are feeling ok.

It doesn’t have to cost a lot to look great

I shopped a lot at Poundland in 2019…in fact I was borderline obsessed! This something that definitely wont change in 2020 – its an amazing shop! A zebra vase for £1 instead of £55 via Quail Ceramics? I’m in!!! Seriously though I’ve learnt that you don’t need to spend a lot of money to create a great look…

…which leads me to :

Creativity feeds the soul

In 2019 I let myself be creative again. I created craft projects, undertook DIY projects, made things for the children, watched documentaries and arts programmes and visited museums and art galleries. I didn’t always get it right, but I did have a jolly good go! The more I found outlets for my creativity the better I felt. It took my time and energy but I really did enjoy what I achieved.

Work hard, then work a bit harder

I had to really push myself in 2019 and worked very hard. I had to step up in to the biggest job I had taken since I had stepped back from my career to be with my son after my marriage ended. To be honest I always have been a hard worker and find it hard to rest but this year showed me to get what you want you have to work your ass off! I read a quote somewhere that said ‘theres is no such thing as luck, only hard work and perseverance’ and I have to agree… I have a lot of plans for 2020 so it looks like theres no relaxing for me yet!!!

Social media is a lie

One of the things that has caused me the most anxiety and ups and downs in 2019 is social media. As a marketer with a specialism in digital, I should know better but seeing peoples highlight reels constantly filled me with feelings of inadequacy, low self esteem and jealousy. I know much of this is photoshopped (often obviously) or faked but it still has a huge effect on me, especially when its via people I know. I know – stupid right? This year I started to manage this once and for all by unfollowing a lot of accounts on Instagram and blocking accounts I had a tendency to obsess on (exes, ex-friends, companies I used to work for, ones where the girls Facetune/Photoshop a lot etc). It hasnt been plain sailing, I’ve had some relaspes but I feel a lot better and am following professional advice I found on the internet about how to deal with unhealthy use of social media. Since I started talking about this, so many people have told me they feel the same/have been suffering from this too and I feel a lot less alone.

I dont expect you to agree with all of these, or even any of them, but these are some of the things I have come to realise over the last year. I personally don’t subscribe to the whole ‘new year, new start’ rubbish. No resolutions or a ridiculous idea to change my life because its January for me – I continue as I always do – pushing forward.

Ever forward. What an adventure…

Heres to 2020, the new roaring 20’s, a completely new decade… whatever it may bring!

Monday Mantra

Yep, its the beginning of the week again, the weekend has flown by and here we are at Monday morning! Here is todays quote or thought that has inspired me and I hope it inspires you too. Have a great week!

Todays thought –

  Source – my Pinterest

Do you overthink? I do sometimes and its a very destructive habit. I’ve discovered a few things that help me though…

Find inspiration – use that amazing brain we have for positivity…read great books, watch fantastic films and TV, embrace art or start writing (blogging is a great way to achieve that).  

Exercise – when I run my mind works freely, exorcising all those negative thoughts we carry. You get to see nature close-up as being on foot makes you see the world at a different level. Listen to music.  And when you return, your mind will feel free of all the clutter that was there before.

Detox your life – remove toxic people and don’t allow yourself to be in negative situations. Learn to say no – we all have responsibilities of course but you don’t have do things you dont want to do. 

Life is short and I’m aiming to not spend it battling with my pointless, negative, critical thoughts. What a waste of time and energy that would be…

What words have inspired you recently? I would love to know.

Monday Mantra

Not done one of these for a while…but with 2016 now upon us it seems the perfect Monday to do one! Happy New Year!!!

Todays thought –  
Source – my Pinterest

I wonder what 2016 has in store? I am not one for New Years resolutions but if you are, good luck with them, and may this coming year may bring you whatever you desire. Its a new year and it can be a new start if you want it.

Me? I’m just going to continue on the path I set myself a few years back, keeping fit by running regularly and making sure I do not gain back the 6.5 stone by counting calories 6 days a week plus making sure I keep the balance of my work and home life on the side of my home and family. I also always aim to travel somewhere new with my partner every year. I have a new challenge in the form of a part time marketing job, I will continue to run my Etsy shop selling vintage and of course post all my style blogs here!

What adventures are you aiming for in 2016? I would love to know.

Monday Mantra

Yep, its the beginning of the week again, the weekend has flown by and here we are at Monday morning! Here is todays quote or thought that has inspired me and I hope it inspires you too. Have a great week!

Todays thought – 


Source – my Pinterest

Are you a parent? Its hard isnt it? As parents we are often toughest on ourselves and this week I am making a conscious effort to stop obsessing on all the things I think I should or could be doing better as a perfect ‘super mum’. Instead I’m going to celebrate the tons of stuff that I am doing and do everyday. 

What words have inspired you recently? I would love to know.

Monday Mantra

Yep, its the beginning of the week again, the weekend has flown by and here we are at Monday morning! Here is todays quote or thought that has inspired me and I hope it inspires you too. Have a great week!

Todays thought

 

Source – my Pinterest

Love to be creative? Is there a piece of art, a story, an idea or project bubbling inside you? Let the sky (and beyond) be the limit…

What words have inspired you recently? I would love to know.

Monday Mantra

Yep, its the beginning of the week again, the weekend has flown by and here we are at Monday morning! Here is todays quote or thought that has inspired me and I hope it inspires you too. Have a great week!

Todays thought –  

Source – my Pinterest

I’ve always been a bit ashamed of being so emotional, wearing my heart on my sleeve, my wild nature and my heart over head mentality. But this clever quote makes me remember hearts are meant to be like that. My heart will never be tamed!

What words have inspired you recently? I would love to know.

Monday Mantra

Yep, its the beginning of the week again, the weekend has flown by and here we are at Monday morning! Here is todays quote or thought that has inspired me and I hope it inspires you too. Have a great week!

Todays thought –  Source – my Pinterest

Cecil Beatons note to self encourages us to not be ordinary, to not be afraid of being different…in fact to revel in it. Being very creative and all that comes with it can be hard, many people dont understand it at all, but personally I wouldn’t want to be any other way.

What words have inspired you recently? I would love to know.

International Womens Day

So today, 8th March 2015 is International Womens Day. A day to celebrate being female – to be proud to be a woman, a feminist, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a lover and a friend.  

To remember the women who came before us and fought for us and our rights.  And the women who taught us, nurtured us and loved us.  The ones who continue to inspire us to be better human beings whether we are male or female.





Do we need days like today?  I’ll be honest, part of me finds it slightly patronising – the fact there is a yearly ‘day’ separates us and thats part of the issue.  I doubt there would be much noise about an International Mens Day.  But ultimately days like this are about empowerment, knowledge and creating change and that can’t be a bad thing.  Lets remember, women are still oppressed throughout the world, earn less than men and are subject to physical and sexual violence.  There is still sexism in many workplaces and as women we are still judged mainly on our appearance. 



Feminism has become a dirty word recently but ultimately it is all about equality for all – not that men are bad or women are better (or vice versa).  The below quote sums it up for me – 



So for me, today is being proud of being a woman, supporting other women and continuing to fight for equality where there is none.  To feel lucky I was bought up by a strong, intelligent woman, who in turn had a strong woman as her mother.  To feel lucky I grew up believing I could be anything I wanted to be.  And to be proud of the woman I am now – I revel in my femininity, love to dress up and be pretty.  I embrace my sexual power and use to it my advantage.  Does that make me a weak woman?  No – its who I am and I am proud of that!  I am also strong, articulate, confident and full of opinions!!!

But for me – 



Lets make every day our day – only we can seize the many different opportunities that present themselves and that takes bravery.  We are women – hear us roar!!!

Sarah xx

All images sourced via http://www.Instagram.com

New Years Eve thoughts

I’m not one for new years resolutions as I’ve broken far too many in the past but I do believe in challenging & pushing yourself and my hopes for 2015 are just to continue in the same direction.

I’ve worked so hard this year in my fitness and trying to continue a career while settling a new home/family. 2014 has been a great year – Russ and I bought our first house together, our relationship has gone from strength to strength, we travelled and we had so much fun.

I started this blog while writing some great paid blogs for others and I ran 3 times a week every week. My body changed as did my mind and I’m so happy with the results.

Our kids are all happy and our life is now full of potential, something it wasn’t before. Each year I wonder if this loved up feeling will wane but its still going strong and long may it continue! It is a wonderful feeling to feel someone adores you, is totally wrapped up in you, thinks you are the sexiest and most gorgeous woman around…and thats how he makes me feel.

Life isn’t easy, I’m not totally where I want to be, but I consider myself very lucky to have all this. Yes, I worked for it, but I am grateful and will never take it for granted…

Have a wonderful night tonight whatever you are doing and heres to 2015!